My wife and I got married 35 years ago this summer and the youngest attendee on the big day was my six-month-old nephew Eric. Flash forward to the summer of 2025 where we watched him and his beautiful bride Julia tie the knot at a church in Nebraska. Talk about a full circle moment.
Back in 1990 at our ceremony, the six-month-old Eric didn’t hold back his emotions, crying openly and unapologetically at the tender ritual enfolding before him. We were touched by his raw expression of joy and silently vowed to return the favor if we were fortunate enough to be invited to his wedding some distant day.
So there we were at St. Thomas More Catholic Church in Omaha, wedding watchers ready to let the waterworks flow. The only hitch was we were feeling much too cheerful to sob. I’ve been to my share of weddings through the years, and for me they generally fall into two categories. There’s the “Good Luck, You’ll Need It” ones, and the “This Looks Like The Real Deal” ones. This was the real deal.
As I watched the bride and groom exchange vows, I thought back to the first time I saw pictures of Eric and Julia together on social media. They had just started dating and every smiling photo revealed what the passage of time would confirm: these two were madly in love and destined to build a bond that could go the distance. Contrast that with the lifecycle of a typical celebrity marriage:
Week 1: Head over heels.
Week 2: Trouble in paradise.
Week 3: What was I thinking?
Week 4: Drifting apart.
Week 5: I just can't do this anymore.
Week 6: Divorced.
The wedding ceremony and reception were filled with solemn traditions and joyful exuberance, but it’s the little things I’ll remember most, including:
- The bride and groom requesting that there be no cell phones, cameras and other electronic devices at the ceremony so that guests could be fully present in the moment. It was very Amish of them. I loved the low-tech touch.
- Listening to my sister-in-law Sandy read an Old Testament passage during the wedding ceremony that included lines like “Hark! My lover – here he comes springing across the mountains, leaping across the hills!” She brought a quiet dignity to the words that I would have turned into inappropriate comedy.
- Seeing my brothers Jim and Bob looking dapper in suits and ties while remembering our rural boyhood attire of dirty t-shirts and jeans on a par with the cast of The Waltons. Good night JimBob, good night John Boy.
- Discovering the adult versions of my nieces Kristen and Rachel who had grown up to be bright, funny, spirited women. In an uncanny coincidence, Kristen’s husband Scott and Rachel’s fiancé Brent turned out to be bright, funny, spirited men. What are the odds?
- Witnessing my mom embrace her role as the family matriarch posing for photo after photo with guests excited to rub elbows with an historical figure who was also “a hoot.”
- Looking on from the sidelines while members of the younger generation bounced wildly from one part of the dance floor to the other like human pinballs on energy drinks. When a couple of them fell to the floor near where I was standing, I wasn’t sure if it was a dance move or a dizzy spell.
- My wife Sherry and I dashing onto the dance floor when we heard the song Tennessee Whiskey, confident we could slow dance our way through it without going into spasmodic gyrations that would risk injury. (We were waiting for a Johnny Mathis tune, but chances are it was not on the playlist.)
- And through it all there was the bride and groom, graceful, gleeful, seemingly everywhere at once and intimately in a world of their own.
So many moments, so many memories. Reflecting on the day, one thing was abundantly clear to me: Eric and Julia are two people who are loved as a couple and unique individuals and who mean a lot to all the people who have shared their journey so far.
In the eyes of this wedding watcher, it was a truly wonderful day. Here’s to a wonderful life ahead!
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